When {in the event you} {discuss} finances in a relationship?

The ultimate guide {on how best to} bring up {finances} in a relationship. {Continue reading}.

Would you dump your girlfriend {in the event that you} {discovered} she had $80,000 {with debt}?

What if {it had been} student-loan debt? That’s what happened {to the} guy.

Or…what {in the event that you} found out {it had been} credit-card debt? {So how exactly does} that change things?

My guy friends and I {discussed} this. {Many of them|A lot of them} agreed – {learning} someone we’re dating had $80K {with debt} {will be a} red flag, but if {it had been} for {student education loans}, {that might be} {a very important factor}. If {it had been} CC debt for frivolous purchases, that’s {a completely} different thing.

This simple question {will be a lot} {more difficult} than it looks:

• How does it change if you’re {a female} and it’s {the person} who {gets the} $80K {with debt}?
• It’s {an easy task to} say {you’ll} {leave} from someone who’s run up {thousands of} dollars of debt, but by {enough time} {you discover} this out, aren’t you already in love? {Are you currently} putting {a cost} on love?

Not surprisingly, {the normal} personal-finance “expert” {includes a} pre-prepared {little bit of} advice handy: “Always {speak to your} partner about their finances! You don’t {wish to be|desire to be} surprised!”

Uh, yeah, that’s {a good} theory, but {a lot of people} don’t {speak to} their partners about money for months, {or even} years.

Data {Not long ago i} collected. I actually suspect {the majority of the} respondents are lying about how soon {they will have} {a significant} discussion {making use of their} partners about money.

So now {you’ve got a} Catch-22: {In the event that you} {discuss} money {prematurily .}, {you find} as a weirdo/gold-digger/controlling freak.

If you wait {too much time}, you’re already embroiled in {the partnership}. How {will you} {leave} from the love {you will ever have} {if you discover} out {he’s got} $40K of CC debt? It’s {better to|simpler to} rationalize that “we’ll try harder” and “things {are certain to get} better” than to {finish off} and {leave}. That’s human nature.

So, what {can you} do?

QUESTIONS:

1. When {can you} {speak to your} partner about {profit} {a fresh} relationship? Be honest and don’t say {everything you} “think” {you need to} do, say {everything you} ACTUALLY did in your last relationship.
2. Is there {a particular} number (e.g., $80K of debt) {that could} {cause you to} seriously reconsider {the partnership}? {Or even}, what would?