{How to approach} rejection

Few {folks} {understand how to|learn how to} {cope with} rejection. Rejection sucks.

It feels lousy {to place} yourself {on the market} {merely to} be crushed.

When I was in college, I {made a decision to} teach {a free of charge} class about personal finance and invited everyone I knew.

No one {arrived}.

Dealing with that rejection stuck with me {for a long time}. I was afraid to throw events {even with} I wrote {a fresh} York Times best-selling book and had {thousands} of readers.

But {through the years} I’ve learned to overcome those fears – {and also} love rejection.

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The idea behind the Continuum of Doers is {you’re} never competing with everyone who enters a competition. Every obstacle makes lazy or uncommitted people drop out, leaving {one to} compete with {a little} {couple of} true winners {at the very top}.

From this perspective, we {note that} rejection {is really a} merely an obstacle {a lot of people} never even {make an effort to} overcome.

But you can both overcome rejection and {remain} from experiencing more of it {later on}. Here’s how:

First, pinpoint what {the reason why} was that {resulted in} you being rejected:

• Did you email your resume to a {potential employer} {rather than} hear back?
• Were you {struggling to} {get yourself a} second date {following the} first one fell flat?
• Did {litigant} hire {someone else} {once you} missed a deadline?

Once you’ve identified any {problem areas} {it is possible to} work to systematically improve yourself in those areas.

Using the examples above, {we’re able to} {learn to|figure out how to|discover ways to} write a killer resume, practice {what things to} say on {a romantic date}, or plan ahead and {develop a} project calendar for {your client}.

If we do {these exact things}, then our {likelihood of} succeeding shoots through the roof {next time} around. We’ll {not merely} overcome rejection, but easily breeze {at night} barriers {which have} held us back.

Step 2: {Arrange for} failure

When I was {deciding on} colleges, I noticed something interesting.

A {large amount of} {individuals} I knew were {deciding on} top schools, {and when} {these were} rejected they’d say: “Whatever, I didn’t {desire to} go there anyway”.

What!?

I remember thinking: “{In the event that you} didn’t {desire to} go, then why’d you apply? {And when} you DID {desire to} go, why {quit} so easily?”

I fully {likely to} get rejected from my dream school (Stanford). That’s why I outlined {an idea} of specific actions I’d {try} {enter} even {once they} rejected me. I {would} send them updates on my coursework, my copywriting business, and press clippings of articles I wrote.

Getting a “no” was only {step one} of {the procedure}.

That’s how {it really is} in {the areas} of life {aswell}. From selling to dating to business – to {almost anything}. {We have to} expect failure and plan what we’ll do when rejection comes.

That’s {just what} top performers do.

James Altucher, {writer of} Choose Yourself, {discussed} this process {whenever we} sat down for a talk {on how best to} {cope with} failure.

We all face a {concern with} failure. It’s {the method that you|the way you} manage {worries} of failure that determines your success.

Step 3: {Think about the} source

A problem my students sometimes face is criticism from {individuals who} don’t {realize why} they are {attempting to} {enhance their} lives.

They’ll hear {things such as}: “{What exactly are} you doing {looking to get} your ‘Dream Job’. {You need to} {you need to be} happy for {the work} you have!”

Of course, that’s usually {from the} guy four cubicles down who’s been stuck in {exactly the same} crappy job for 25 years.

When {you obtain} negative feedback, first {think about the} person it’s {via}. Then {consider}: Is this someone {I will} listen to? {Could it be} someone I admire and respect? {Or simply} a random critic who enjoys cutting people down, and doesn’t {know very well what} the hell he’s {discussing}?

As someone who’s received {a large number of} hateful comments and emails {through the years}, I’ll {function as} first {to inform} you {that a lot of} people {Want to} offer criticism – {however, not} solutions. Don’t bother {hearing} {those individuals}.

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