{How exactly to} identify invisible scripts that control our lives

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There’s {a vintage} joke:

Two fish are swimming in a pond when {a mature} fish starts swimming {another} way towards them. {Once the} older fish passes them, he nods and says, “{Hello}! How’s the water?” {Both} fish swim {for some time} before {one of these} looks to {another} and asks, “What the hell is water?”

Invisible scripts.

Invisible scripts are truths so ubiquitous and deeply embedded in society {that people} don’t even realize they’re guiding our attitudes and behavior. Like water to a fish, they surround us {even though} we don’t know it.

This {is really a} topic that doesn’t get discussed often. Mostly because invisible scripts are revealing. And {the items} they reveal {may be} some tough pills to swallow.

But, c’mon, {that is} IWT. We’re {likely to} {discuss} them.

Invisible scripts and {where to find} them

Can {you imagine} of a belief you have that’s pre-written by your societal values?

For example, in Indian culture, parents will sacrifice virtually everything {for his or her|because of their} child {to achieve success}. {I recall} watching a Bollywood movie with my mom (because I’m {an excellent} son) and watching a scene {where in fact the} poor parents give their only {air conditioner} {with their} son while he studies.

In the movie, young Indian men {reserve} their “passions” for {a well balanced} job, {that they} can use {to aid} their families. {They will have} little interaction with women before marriage. Anything non-engineering/medical is looked down upon.

We all nod {as of this} saying, “Ah yes, those passionless Indian automatons.” {That’s} until we look at ourselves in the mirror.

Think about {a few of the} biggest ones {you may have} heard:

  • You {have to} go to college {to reach your goals}.
  • After college, you {have to get} married, buy a house, and raise a nuclear family with 2.5 kids and {your dog}.
  • You {have to} {look for a} 9-to-5 job and grind away {within an} office until it’s {time and energy to} retire.

See {why}? They’re called “invisible scripts” for {grounds} – {and when} you don’t realize they’re there or ignore them, they become traps ensnaring you into something you didn’t necessarily even {wish to accomplish} {because} you thought {you’d} to.

They’re usually so subtle they’ll {go through} {your brain} completely undetected – {even while} influencing {everything you} think, say, and do. That’s {why is} them so dangerous.

And invisible scripts don’t {need to be} “negative” or “false” either. {Actually}, {there are several} {that you may} really {have confidence in} {even with} realizing that they’re invisible scripts.

That’s okay {so long as you} realize any invisible script you adopt {gets the} {capacity to} shape {your daily life} tremendously – {particularly when} it {involves} money. {As time passes}, certain negative scripts become traps, and their {capacity to} hold you back increases significantly.

After years of research, and {thousands} of data points from {speaking with} readers {as if you}, I’ve discovered four specific invisible scripts {that a lot of} frequently hold us back {from the} Rich Life. {I wish to|I would like to} {demonstrate} them now {and present} you {approaches for} destroying them one-by-one.

Invisible script #1: “I don’t have {hardly any money} {therefore i} can’t {head to} college.”

A while back, I started watching the show “Friday Night Lights.” As {a person who|somebody who} hates sports, doesn’t {even understand} what sports season {it really is}, {but still} doesn’t {know how} football is scored, {I’m} impressed with myself for watching this show.

Anyway, it depicts {a little} Texas town {and its own} love of football. True {to create}, I {disregard the} football parts and {concentrate on} analyzing the meta-messages. {I understand}, {I’m} really fun at parties.

“Friday Night Lights” explained {lots of things} {which have} puzzled me about American culture. {For instance}, {in a single} episode, the dad spends his daughter’s college money, prompting her {to state}, “Now I can’t {head to} college!”

I was confused. Huh? You don’t have money saved, {and that means you|which means you} can’t afford college? What?

Unfortunately, {this is exactly what} most Americans believe: {That should you} don’t have money, you can’t {head to} college. This belief is reflected {inside our} culture ({Television shows}), our educational system ({senior high school} counselors), {and also} our businesses (banks that promote 529s with fear tactics).

Of course, it’s {not} true. {In the event that you} don’t have money, you can still {head to} college {once you learn} {where you can} look.

SOLUTION: {Make an application for} scholarships, loans, and grants.

My family didn’t have {big money} when I {was raised}, and I {visited} {among the} top universities {in the united kingdom} via scholarships (how I won $100,000+ of scholarships). But {even though} I hadn’t done that, {there have been} still {Many choices}:

  • Student loans (no, {they’re} not uniformly evil, despite what everybody says)
  • Grants
  • Work-study/part-time job, etc.

In fact, the cultural script of “No money = no college” is {a lot more} absurd {once you} actually {understand how} college admissions and {school funding} work. {In case you are} poor – but you’re skilled enough {to obtain} admissions – most top universities {can pay} {for the} entire education. {For this reason|That is why} you should {connect with} {the very best} universities you can, {no matter|irrespective of} money.

Yet “Friday Night Lights” reflects our cultural values, which are so deep-seated {that people} don’t even blink. No money = no college. {Needless to say}!

But that’s just an assumption – like so {lots of the} invisible scripts that guide our lives.

Invisible script #2: “{I have to} ‘figure things out’ before I {opt to} {enjoy better paychecks}.”

We think {more info} alone {changes} everything.

It’s human nature. {Take into account the} people {that you experienced} ({it may be} you!) who obsessively research {something} before buying it, or read {a large number of} articles on {a spare time activity} before picking it up … but never {reach} it because they’re so overwhelmed by information.

This {can be} called “paralysis by analysis.” And we even hear this invisible script from professors and so-called experts. “Give people information {to allow them to} make {the proper} decision.”

We internalize {the theory} that information alone {can help} us {create a} change. So we start saying {things such as}, “{I have to} do some research” or “{I have to} figure some things out before I start …”

The {facts are} if we wait on information alone we never take action {to perform} our goals. We already know what {we have to} do. {Do you consider} {an} overweight person doesn’t know {they have to} {eat much less} and {workout} more? {Do you consider} someone {with debt} doesn’t know {they have to} stop overspending?

When {eating more} information doesn’t work, we shift our {focus on} new learning tactics. But there’s {a very important factor} we forget: By {concentrating on} tactics, we’re still doing {exactly the same} things {we’ve been} doing {all of this} time.

What are we missing?

SOLUTION: {Escape} “research mode” and {do something}.

The belief {that people} need {more info} prevents us from taking action and learning from real and painful mistakes.

As we {grow older}, we stop exposing ourselves to areas {such as this} where {we may|we would} fail. Instead, we read blog after blog {concerning the} topic to give ourselves {the sensation} that we’re doing something.

So {how can you} finally {log off} the sidelines and {do something}?

I {prefer to} {work with a} technique Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon, uses: Regret-Minimization Framework.

Whenever you come upon {an activity} {or perhaps a} goal {you would like to|you need to|you wish to} accomplish, {consider}, “{AM I GOING TO} regret not trying this when I’m 80 {yrs . old}?”

Top Performers know success isn’t {nearly} tactics {or even more} information. They don’t lean {on a single} “mental crutches” {a lot of people} use. And neither {in the event you}.

Invisible script #3: “I don’t have {a small business} idea.”

One {the simplest way} {to improve} your earning power {would be to} {take up a} side hustle. I’ve taught {a large number of} students {how exactly to} successfully {develop a} side income stream that {earns} {at the very least} $1,000 {monthly} ({and frequently} {a lot more}).

Still, {probably the most} common invisible scripts people {belong to} is “I don’t have {a small business} idea.”

Usually, this psychological barrier {will come in} {one of the} varieties:

  • “{I’ve} no idea what skills {I’ve} {that folks} would {purchase}.”
  • “{I’ve} {plenty of} great ideas, but I’m {uncertain} {how exactly to} even start turning them into money.”
  • “Every {proven fact that} {I believe} of {was already} done {someplace else}. {I want} something ‘original.’”
  • “I start idea after idea, but I never {continue}. What {must i} do to {stick to} one idea?”

If you’ve {ever really tried} {to start out} a side business, then ran into {one of these brilliant} traps, you’re {not by yourself}. But {how can you} overcome them?

SOLUTION: {Consider} the three questions.

There are three questions {it is possible to} {consider} that’ll {offer you} great ideas for side hustles {as soon as you} answer them.

They are:

  1. What knowledge have I acquired? Major in Spanish? Great at woodworking? {Are you currently} an accomplished guitarist? People {can pay} you money {that you should|so that you can|that you can} teach them those skills too.
  2. What do {I really do} on a Saturday morning? Great question to see what you’re passionate about. {Most of us} have things we {want to} do on Saturday mornings before {everybody else} is awake. {Are you currently} at {the fitness center} training? Reading dating advice blogs? {Focusing on} your car? {They are} all viable side hustles!
  3. What challenges have I overcome? {It is possible to} turn your most vulnerable and painful moments {right into a} great freelancing gig. Did you {battle to} lose weight {for a long time} before {determining} {ways to get} in shape? {Are you currently} an introvert who’s learned to overcome shyness to {become more} sociable? Find {a remedy} {to the} question and you’ll {look for a} profitable idea.

Try answering those questions and {develop} 15-20 answers. {As soon as you} do, you’ll have 15-20 side hustle ideas {you can begin} today.

If you’re still struggling, {here are} my best resources on side hustles:

Invisible script #4: “I’ll never {get yourself a} raise/find {employment} in this economy!”

Ever {because the} 2008 housing crisis, {it looks like} the media {is definitely} telling us {that people} should feel lucky {to possess} any job at all. {And when} you don’t have one, well you’re S.O.L.

Most {folks} accept this. We {think that} companies don’t have money {to provide} us {employment} {or perhaps a} raise. We {think that} even {requesting} something like {that may|which will} {perhaps you have} laughed out of a manager’s office.

And many fall prey {to the} {for just two} reasons:

  • It’s easier. If we accept that there’s a force out of our control (i.e., the economy) dictating {whether} we {get yourself a} raise {or perhaps a} job, we feel {significantly less} pressure {to set up} the effort {of earning} {additional money}. We cocoon ourselves in it, hoping that we’ll somehow emerge {on the other hand} as {some type of} money-making butterfly – when that’s {false}.
  • It {attracts} {the cheapest} common denominator. The {media} produces fear for {the cheapest} common denominator. I don’t {provide a} damn about them. I’m not writing this {for those who} are okay {making use of their} 3% cost-of-living raise and shuffle {back again to} their cubicles, thankful {they will have} {employment} at all.

The {facts are} there’s {a whole lot} companies don’t want {one to} know.

SOLUTION: Put yourself in the company’s shoes.

I’ve been on both sides of the negotiating table {often}. I’ve negotiated my compensation {being an} employee and consultant, and I’ve had my staff negotiate against me.

Let me share {the largest} insight from having those two {completely different} perspectives: $5,000 means less to {an organization} than {this means} {for you}.

Let’s assume {your present} salary is $60,000. {Which means} {your organization} is paying around $100,000 “fully loaded,” {if they} include taxes, {medical health insurance}, benefits, furniture, and {the rest}. And that’s {simply for} junior people!

If {your organization} employs 10+ people, they’re likely doing {at the very least} seven figures in revenue – often many, {often} that. $5,000 is nothing to {a big}, medium, {as well as} small company! {They don’t} {desire to} lose you over {several} thousand dollars. That’s pocket change {in their mind}.

Companies spend {typically} approximately $6,000 recruiting new college graduates. As {you obtain} {increasingly more} senior, that number increases. {Element in} training and onboarding, {as well as your} company {has recently} spent {more than} $10,000 just in hiring you.

Keeping their business running is {a lot more} important than counting pennies {in their mind} – and {for some} companies, that’s {just what} $5K or $10K {is the same as}.

Curious {concerning the} exact words {to utilize} when {requesting} a raise? Watch this video where I reveal {the precise}, word-for-word script.

Invisible scripts prevent us from earning more

Do you {start to see the} invisible scripts that guide our lives?

Here are {many others}:

  • “{I will} follow my passions”
  • “{I will} {attach} with {many people} before I {relax}”
  • “I work hard, {therefore i} deserve this nice apartment”
  • “My kids should {look after|care for} themselves {once they} graduate from college”

Each {of the} scripts {is indeed} deeply embedded {inside our} culture {that people} don’t realize they’re there. They prevent us from doing {the items} we love and living our Rich Life.

I’m not {likely to} let that {eventually} you. {To greatly help}, my team and {I’ve} {done} something {for you personally}:

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  • Start {your personal} business and escape the 9-to-5 {once and for all}.
  • Increase your income by {thousands} {per year} through side hustles like freelancing.

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