House Poor: how it happens and {how exactly to} {correct it}

David Domzalski was just {starting to} process the ultrasound images of his first son when his wife told him that she {wished to} {be considered a} stay-at-home mom.

This meant {learning to be a} one-income house, and that meant their debts would take longer {to repay}.

It also meant the young family would soon be house poor.

House poor {implies that} {nearly all} your income {is certainly going} towards your home’s mortgage, utilities, repairs, etc. – leaving little money for other expenses {like the} phone bill, groceries, and, well, {the rest}.

You {may be} rolling your eyes {at this time} and saying to yourself, “You gotta be kidding me! Why would anyone put themselves {in that} bad {finances} for a house? That’s ridiculous!”

It’s not {that easy}.

Being house poor {is similar to} being in a crappy relationship. It’s {very easy} {to guage} and scoff at {things such as}, “Ugh {they’re} so {harmful to} each other. {Should they} just {split up}, they’d be WAY happier.”

But when you’re {the main one} in {the partnership}, it’s {a completely} different story. You’re almost blind to {the truth} around you. You’re more {ready to} bury yourself in excuses like:

  • “Maybe things {changes} {easily} just keep {spending so much time} at it.”
  • “I’m committed. I can’t {quit} now!”
  • “{Imagine if} I never find another {nearly as good} again?”

And sometimes all we see {may be the} picturesque Norman Rockwell version of things when {the truth is} {a lot more} painful.

There {certainly are a} {large amount of} reasons someone ends up house poor. Luckily, {additionally, there are} {lots of|plenty of} ways one can recover from being house poor. That’s why we talked to two {individuals who have|those who have} first-hand experience – a college professor who’s currently house poor and {a fresh} father who recently got out.

Their insights were haunting, painful, {and intensely} revealing – {plus they} {reveal} a topic {lots of people} {would prefer to} not {discuss}.

But, c’mon, {that is} IWT. We’re {likely to} {discuss} it.

The house poor professor who spends half his pay on his home

Shaun / 35 / Utah

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  • Occupation: College professor
  • Current income: $44,000 / year
  • Family: Married, 3 children
  • Wife’s income: $8,000 / year
  • Purchase price of home: $189,000
    • Mortgage: $1,153/month, 30-year fixed rate
    • Loan after consolidation: $199,000

Shaun {is really a} college professor {from the} small Utah town. He and his family {have been} renting {a house} {for a couple} years before his friend approached him {1 day} with a question: “{Would you like} {a residence}?”

They found the five-bedroom home attractive {plus they} also received {a good deal} on {the house} at $189,000 (in {circumstances} {where in fact the} median price of {a house} is nearly $300,000).

It all made logical sense to Shaun.

“We figured {that people} could pay someone else’s mortgage by renting or {we’re able to} pay {our very own},” he recalls. “{That has been} {a simple} thought {for me personally}: {I could} just pay {my very own} [mortgage] {also it} would put equity towards {the home} {despite the fact that} it’s {a little} amount.”

Shaun fell {right into a} trap {that lots of} homeowners ensnare themselves in by discounting the phantom costs of {running a} home. Soon he’d find himself parting with {a large} slice of his paycheck {due to} his house.

He adds, “{In addition to the} place where we were staying had just risen their rent … so we went {for this}.”

And so Shaun bought {the home} and got a 30-year fixed rate mortgage at 4.125% interest.

“When {we} looked at {the home}, we thought {that people} weren’t {likely to} get another deal {such as this},” Shaun says. “{It had been} {a fresh} home {also it} was {well developed}. We loved {all of the} little features so we were okay with putting our money there.”

Shaun’s wife also works as a professor. However, she makes $36,000 {significantly less than} Shaun because she only works {in your free time}. {Due to this|For this reason}, {the household} must {depend on} Shaun’s income {to repay} the mortgage. (Luckily, the mortgage {may be the} only big loan {the household} has as Shaun recently {paid} his education loans.)

Unluckily, {1 / 2 of} Shaun’s take-home pay goes towards the mortgage. {So when} {1 / 2 of} your salary is fed to {the home}, that means {that you need to} be a {many more} judicious with {the method that you|the way you} spend {your cash}.

“{We’ve} set things {we realize} {we need to} {purchase},” Shaun says. “We’re not {the sort} to scramble {to discover} how we’re {likely to} {purchase} things {every month}. We know {just what} {we have to} {purchase} utilities and the mortgage. So {we’ve} discretionary spending. It’s {only a} set amount.”

But still, it’s {challenging} watching the hit in his pay {every month}. {This means} forgoing {a variety of} {items that} Shaun {really wants to} do but cannot {due to} his {finances}.

“I’d {want to} {have the ability to} {purchase} my parents’ home,” Shaun says, “{donate to} their retirement income, and help {friends and family} financially {if they} {require it}. [Also] I’d {prefer to} {purchase a} vehicle for {my children} that doesn’t require the cramming we currently experience with {a child} seat, a toddler chair, and a booster seat all vying for limited space in {a concise} car.”

He continues, “It’s tough. I look {within my} paycheck and say, ‘Most {of the} {is really a} wash. It’s already spoken for!’ {1 / 2 of} it goes towards {the home} and utilities and {the rest of the} things that {include} {the home}. Ramit’s not big on {running a} home and {I could} {understand why}.”

Shaun’s house poor escape plan

To {escape} being house poor, Shaun is employing several tactics:

  • Paying more money {every month} for the mortgage
  • Refinancing the home
  • Earning more money

“We’re {likely to} pay [the mortgage] off {faster} than what it’s scheduled to be,” he says. “So {rather than} 30 years it’s at about 18 years.”

Shaun also refinanced {the house}. {In the event that you} don’t {know very well what} {that’s}, it’s okay. Refinancing {is similar to} {obtaining a} new loan. It allows the borrower {to obtain a} new appraisal on {the home} and can {bring about} some big wins {just like a|such as a} lower {interest} and higher home value.

And that’s {just what} happened for Shaun.

“We got [appraised] for $189,000 originally,” Shaun says. “But {with this} refinance, it appraises higher now at $250,000. We also got {a lesser} {interest}. It wasn’t {an enormous} change, {nonetheless it} was enough to knock off {a couple of hundred} dollars {per month}.”

He adds, “Luckily, now {the home} is worth {a lot more than} what we owe {onto it} so we’re not underwater.”

Shaun also {used} another job as a DJ for his local radio station {to greatly help} offset {the price of|the expense of} the mortgage.

“It’s {not just a} {a lot of money} maker – just $13 {one hour},” he says. “But {I really like} it {also it} {supports} our expenses. It’s {a couple of hundred} bucks {per month} {for some|for a couple} hours. {It can help} {to repay} more principal on {the home} and helps us {escape} it sooner.”

Shaun doesn’t think his family {will remain} {in the house} forever – but, {for the present time}, he’ll be {paying off} that mortgage as best {he is able to}. Now, let’s {check out|have a look at} {anyone who has} {experienced} Shaun’s shoes BUT has gotten {from it} …

The finance junkie who escaped being house poor

David / 33 / Pennsylvania

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  • Occupation: Auditor
  • Income when house poor: $80,000 / year
  • Family: Married, {one young child} (another {along the way})
  • Price of old home: $450,000
    • Mortgage: $2,200/month 30-year fixed (2011 rates)
  • Price of current home: $350,000
    • Mortgage: $1,300/month 30-year fixed (2016 rates)

David Domzalski {can be an} auditor – {as well as the} founder and writer of the blog Run the Money.

So it’s {just a little} ironic {he} found himself being house poor despite {this type of} strong background in finances.

“Being house poor was {one of many} reasons {I needed} {to start out} Run the Money {this past year},” David says. “{It had been} {this type of} huge experience. It consumed our lives.”

It all started when David and his wife got married and {made a decision to} {buy a} house in Newtown, Pennsylvania, in 2011. {At that time}, it seemed perfect. {They might} both afford it on his salary {being an} auditor and his wife’s salary as a teacher. Plus, {it had been} in the Philadelphia area where David {was raised}.

“{It had been} the best house {we’re able to} afford,” he recalls. “We were so {pleased with} that home – just patting ourselves on {the trunk}. We were cocky twenty-somethings and just really {worked up about} it, {you understand}?”

They were young, optimistic, and saw that house as {their very own} quarter-acre slice of the American dream. It wasn’t just {a residence}. {It had been} a badge of honor. Their signal to {the planet} {they} had finally {managed to get}.

They loved this house.

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“{It had been} our first house together,” he says. “We worked our butts off {to save lots of} for it. {Whenever we} got it, {it had been} us signifying to {the planet} {that people} had arrived. And we really felt like we {achieved it}. We had {a lovely} street in {a lovely} neighborhood. {It had been} {precisely what} we wanted. {It had been} just ours. We felt {that people} had accomplished {a thing that} {nobody|no-one} could {eliminate} from us.”

After purchasing it, {both} moved in and started turning {a residence} {right into a} home – painting the rooms, {setting up} hardwood floor, and {investing in} “{lots of|plenty of} blood, sweat, and tears” {to help make the} house truly theirs. {You understand}, {all you} see on HGTV.

A {couple of years} later, though, David and his wife {found} {a choice} that {finished up} entrapping {the household} into an ever-tightening financial vice.

When two incomes turn to just one

“I’m done. I’m {no longer working} anymore.”

That’s what David’s wife told him in March 2015. {Both} were sitting {within their} car after just seeing {the initial} ultrasound images {of these} unborn son.

By {this time around}, his wife switched careers and worked in {property}. She was {attracting} a lucrative $175,000 {per year} while David made $80,000, allowing {both} {to call home} comfortably.

But when she saw {the initial} images of her son, she {made a decision} to stay {in the home} {to aid} her child.

“{I simply} {informed her}, ‘Okay.’ I fully supported {my partner} {being truly a} stay-at-home mom,” David says recalling that fateful moment. “Looking back now, {it had been} definitely {the proper} decision because my son {is among the} happiest kids you’ve ever seen. But {at that time}, it put us in a bind.”

Part {of this} bind included roughly $30,000 in {personal credit card debt}. With {a kid} {along the way} and {the household} turning to {an individual} income, {there is} no way {these were} going to {have the ability to} pay it down {any time in the future}.

And then {there is} the {mortgage repayment} {for his or her|because of their} home. {That which was} once a marker that the couple had “{managed to get}” soon became {an agonizing} weight {on the} shoulders.

“{We’d} the {personal credit card debt} {along with} the $2,200 {per month} we were paying [for the mortgage],” David says. “I was making {no more than} $80,000 {per year}. {So that it} was probably {near} half our income with just me working.”

Determined {to help keep} {the house}, the couple {started to|begun to} {search for} solutions. His wife’s {real estate industry} still had {several} deals left, {so that they} {could actually} {make use of the} extra income. {In addition they} refinanced {the house} twice {however the} payment was still sitting at $2,200 {per month}.

“{For a lot of}, [$2,200 a month] isn’t {a problem}. {But also for} us, it just wasn’t {likely to} work,” he says. “We lived {such} {a pricey} area. {It had been} {a location} where you have {to possess} two incomes or I had {to obtain a} higher paying job that required me {to go to} New York {each day}. And that’s something {I simply} didn’t {wish to accomplish}.”

He adds, “I value {enough time} {I’ve} with {my children} {a lot more} than making the ‘big bucks.’”

Unless they did something soon, the young family faced insurmountable debt {and also} foreclosure.

“I cried.”

David and his wife {started to|begun to} discuss their options – {like the} {chance for} selling {their residence}.

“{There have been} {lots of|plenty of} late nights,” he says. “{Lots of|Plenty of} car rides where we just discussed it. We knew our situation meant making decisions we didn’t {desire to} make. And we ran the numbers every way {it is possible to} {think about} too. We {tried each and every} {solution to} keep us {for the reason that} home {also it} just wasn’t {likely to} work.”

The two {viewed} areas where {they might} cut their spending. They made their budget {important}. They considered cutting luxuries like cable and selling their car.

Meanwhile, the couple ran the numbers constantly, {attempting to} untangle the Gordian knot {of these} {credit card debt}. It {continued} {in this manner} for months.

His son was eventually born before they {found} {the only real} logical conclusion: {That they had} {to market} their dream home.

“{There is} no way {we’re able to} {take action},” David says. “So we kicked off {the procedure} of moving out.”

The family put {their residence} {in the marketplace|out there|available} and began the {visit a} new home on the weekends. Throughout {everything}, {the sensation} of despair and the ever-present pang of nostalgia were always {near by}.

“When I realized {we’d} {to get this done}, and I {devote} for the transfer [at work], and {we’d} {the home} we loved {in the marketplace|out there|available}, I cried,” David recalls. “We loved that house.”

He continues, “On our {yesterday evening} {inside your home}, {we} walked to each room and we said {all of the} memories {we’d} for that specific room. It meant that much to us.”

What “adulting” looks like

So {the household} moved out and stayed with David’s in-laws until they found another home two hours away in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania.

While it isn’t {the same as} their former house, {the house} and neighborhood did {give a} {amount of} benefits, including:

  • Lower cost of living. {The home} they bought {finished up} being roughly $100,000 less than their old house. The {payment} {is nearly} $1,000 less {aswell}.
  • Close proximity to his in-laws. David’s wife’s parents live {a brief} drive {from} the home, {that is} fantastic {in case there is} emergencies. “Fortunately, we {could actually} move to {a location} where my wife’s parents {are simply} 45 minutes away and {we’ve} their help,” he says.
  • Great job benefits. {Along with his} job transfer, David was also {in a position to} negotiate a pay raise including telecommute days and {the casual} Friday off – {this means} even more {time and energy to} spend {along with his} son.

After {getting into} {the brand new} home, the couple {started to|begun to} {lower} their debt. {Along with his} wife {dealing with} a consulting gig and David building out his side hustle in Run the Money, they {could actually} finally {manage} their finances again.

“That’s what ‘adulting’ {appears like},” he says. “It’s making decisions and sacrifices {such as this} – and {I’d} {repeat}.”

The family {is nearly} two years {to their} new home, {even though} they miss their old house, they wouldn’t trade their current situation for {the planet}.

“It’s amazing how {everything} {exercised},” he says. “We’ve been really blessed. {It had been} {a hard} situation {nonetheless it} goes to {demonstrate} that sometimes those situations you {proceed through} in life {are} about taking that leap of faith. {Most of us} want {what to} go well. Sometimes it doesn’t, {but also for} us, it couldn’t {been employed by} out better.”

David adds, “I {reach} be {house with} my son and daughter. They {reach} {mature} in {a lovely} neighborhood, and it’s all because {Dad and mom|Father and mother} made an #adulting decision.”

What to do if you’re house poor

If you’re house poor too, you’re {not by yourself}. 44% of Americans are “liquid-asset poor,” {in accordance with} {a report} by Prosperity Now Scorecard, a nonprofit {focused on} affecting economic policy change to “rebuild prosperity {in the us}.”

But, as evidenced by Shaun and David, {there’s} hope. While {both of these} homeowners are separated by over 2,000 miles and make different salaries, they both made one key decision {to greatly help} them stop being house poor: They found {methods to} {earn much more} money. 

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